Welcome to Lessons From the Church Boardroom—The Blog, a 40-week journey through the new book, Lessons From the Church Boardroom: 40 Insights for Exceptional Governance, by Dan Busby and John Pearson. Each Wednesday, we'll feature a guest blogger’s favorite snippet from the week's topic. Ryan Britt is our guest blogger this week for the first of three lessons in "Part 5: Boardroom Bloopers.”
LESSON 15 OF 40 – Do Not Interrupt!
Don’t assume board members know how to listen.
THE BIG IDEA FROM THE BOOK: In order for a board to operate at its highest potential, its members need to practice diligent listening. If a board is full of people who are waiting on their turn to talk—instead of listening in order to understand—the board or team will quickly find its lid of effectiveness. For some, listening is a desire to cultivate—and for others it is a discipline to choose. But regardless of the ease in which you practice healthy listening, it is the critical ingredient to healthy relationships and interactions, especially on the board level.
MY FAVORITE INSIGHTS from Lesson 15, pages 84-88:
Ruth Haley Barton:
• “Do not formulate what you want to say while someone else is speaking.”
• “Don’t take for granted that people know how to listen. We live in a culture where people are much more skilled at trying to get their point across and arguing their position than they are at engaging in mutually influencing relationships.”
MY COLOR COMMENTARY:
On our team, we hold each other accountable and sharpen each other in the area of listening with this question, “Are you listening to hear or listening to respond?”
I have to confess that I am guilty of preparing my response as someone else is speaking. I am, as this chapter outlines, a “driver” (one of the four social styles), so I process information fairly quickly and I come to convicted responses almost as quickly. I have learned over time—while serving on and leading different board-type environments—that you can lead with quick thinking, quick talking, and passionate communication. But one day you will find yourself frustrated in feelings of leadership isolation—and it is most likely because you have been more interested in getting your preferred opinions validated than you were in creating a relationship with your board.
Listening to hear, in my opinion, is a kindness or gift that is supernaturally charged by the Holy Spirit in the life of the believer. I have experienced times when leadership teams and boards are in all-day meetings and almost nothing gets accomplished because one or two people are talking over everyone else the whole time, regardless of the topic. (I’ve actually been that guy!)
I have also had the opposite experience, where people are leaning in with spiritual ears, listening to discern what God might be stirring or where He might be leading the team. When this is happening, it is a beautiful exchange and the outcome is ALWAYS fruitful.
Listening for me is a discipline I have learned—and am learning to choose—and in my life it requires pen and paper. Pen and paper help me capture key words or topics others are sharing and internalize them as we process toward our end goal. This small practice helps me ask better questions—which is the result of good listening!
It also helps me focus by eliminating distractions. I can’t have my phone out or my laptop open because if I get out of focus for any real amount of time—I am dishonoring the people I am serving with. I am also communicating to myself that whatever other thing I have going on is more important than what the team has going on.
If I prioritize self over team in just these simple ways, I almost certainly will be quick to speak and slow to listen. For me, it’s all connected.
THIS WEEK’S QUOTES & COMMENTARY BY RYAN BRITT:
Ryan Britt is the Executive Ministries Pastor at The Church of Eleven22 in Jacksonville, Fla. He is married to Jennifer and has two beautiful daughters, Anna Kathryn and Abigail. Ryan has served at Eleven22 for five of the six years since the church launched. The Church of Eleven22 has grown to five campuses averaging 11,000 on the weekends. Prior to serving at Eleven22, Ryan served as the Director of Global Missions at 12Stone Church in Lawrenceville, GA.
TO-DO TODAY:
• Buy and read Ruth Haley Barton’s book, Pursuing God’s Will Together: A Discernment Practice for Leadership Groups.
• Take your board through the exercise in Lesson 15, “10 Guidelines for Entering Into and Maintaining a Listening Posture” (pages 86-87) and discuss your findings.
• Visit the ECFA Knowledge Center and read and share the short chapter, “Lesson 15 – Do Not Interrupt!”
NEXT WEDNESDAY:
On June 5, 2019, watch for the commentary by Werner Jacobsen on Lesson 16, "The Bully in the Church Boardroom. God, the pastor, the board chair, and other board members must neutralize the board bully.”
ORDER THE BOOK TODAY!
Welcome to Lessons From the Church Boardroom—The Blog, a 40-week journey through the new book, Lessons From the Church Boardroom: 40 Insights for Exceptional Governance, by Dan Busby and John Pearson. Each Wednesday, we'll feature a guest blogger’s favorite snippet from the week's topic. Peter F. Clements is our guest blogger this week for the first of four lessons in "Part 4: Epiphanies in the Boardroom.”
LESSON 11 OF 40 – Tap! Tap! Tap!
Does the Spirit hear a busy signal when nudging your board?
THE BIG IDEA FROM THE BOOK: In Lesson 11, the authors emphasize the importance of allowing space in your board meetings for members to be aware of and responsive to God’s gentle promptings while still efficiently completing the agenda. Failure to do so may result in missing prime opportunities for God’s power to be revealed in our meetings as members pray and discern together.
MY FAVORITE INSIGHTS from Lesson 11, pages 60-64:
The authors suggest a few ways that your board can avoid missing that important nudge from the Holy Spirit:
• Develop a discipline of stillness: Scripture is full of examples of those who took the time to be still and hear from God at pivotal moments. Our boards should practice the discipline of being quiet and mindfully listening for His voice.
• Commit to slow down—lower the RPMs: The tendency to be in a rush to complete the agenda can interrupt the flow of the Spirit in our meetings. We need to remind ourselves that it is possible to be aware of God’s promptings while still being attentive to the tasks at hand.
• Understand that any board member can feel the nudge of the Holy Spirit: It is important to have clarity amongst the board that the chair is not the only one who can call for prayer during the meeting. All board members should feel free to interrupt the flow when they feel that it is time for prayer or to be quiet in His presence.
MY COLOR COMMENTARY:
As leaders, we are intuitively aware of the pressure to maximize our own time efficiency and that of our boards as a matter of practicing good stewardship. That drive to accelerate decision making and get things done can unfortunately pre-empt a necessary move of God amid our meeting deliberations. I can certainly attest to encountering situations as a leader and as a board member in which all the combined intellect and best devices in the room could not lead us to a resolution—and THEN we decided to pray and seek the mind of the Lord. What if we approached it differently and made prayer a priority in our meetings?
True empowerment from the Spirit can come in the form of divine wisdom, uncommon courage, increased confidence, or even a miracle. But it only comes when we as leaders exercise enough spiritual discernment to flow back and forth between fulfilling the meeting agenda and listening to the Father’s still small voice for direction.
Let us commit to attending to the state of our own hearts so that we can be prepared when the time comes for our board meetings to be interrupted by a time of prayer or waiting on God for guidance, bringing eternal value and lasting impact to our time together.
THIS WEEK’S QUOTES & COMMENTARY BY PETER F. CLEMENTS:
Rev. Peter F. Clements serves as the President/CEO of Church Extension Plan in Salem, Ore. Church Extension Plan (CEP) is a ministry providing premier financial and administrative services to the churches and districts of the Assemblies of God and their constituents. Prior to his election as CEP’s President, Peter served as CFO for over 10 years. He possesses a strong background in finance and information technology, and his leadership strengths are in the areas of motivating team collaboration and strategic thinking. He has served on both church and non-profit boards. Peter, and his wife, Karen, make their home in Salem and have three amazing children, Andrew, Allison, and Luke.
TO-DO TODAY:
• Read chapter 10, “Get Set: From Decision Making to Discernment” from Ruth Haley Barton’s book, Pursuing God’s Will Together: A Discernment Practice for Leadership Groups.
• Take time to review and reflect on your last few board meetings to determine if there were moments where you should have stopped to pray but did not. Make a commitment to one another as board members to be attuned to those moments in the future and to stop and pray.
• Visit the ECFA Knowledge Center and read and share the short chapter, “Lesson 11 – Tap! Tap! Tap!”
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NEXT WEDNESDAY:
On May 8, 2019, watch for the commentary by David Fletcher on Lesson 12, "Looking for Consensus but Finding Division. Finding consensus on challenging issues requires deft handling and a flexible approach by the board chair.”
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